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Property, June 14, 2009
Written by Master William’s jaelina[W]
Inanimate object, or living being? Does being the property of a Master, Mistress or Dominant, have a connecting link to objectification? The answer to this question varies from relationship to relationship; as does any answer, to any question, but in the end, does objectification have anything to do with being property? Once we slaves and submissives understand that we are the property of our Owners’, and just what being property means, how do we keep ourselves in this mindset?
In my relationship with my Master, I am a living being, and am treated as such. This does not mean however, that my Owner treats me as any regular house wife, because that is far from the truth. But we both recognize that I am a living, breathing human being with feelings and opinions. It is how I express these things that matters the most.
It is true that I belong to my Master as completely as this computer belongs to my Master. The only difference being that this inanimate object cannot make the choice to ask for release, and receive it. An object being “something visible or tangible”, I am an object to my Master, in the sense, that I too can be seen as well as touched (when, of course, this is my Master’s will).
When the submissive or slave has come to an understanding of what it means to be property, he or she can then concentrate on keeping themselves in the mindset of being so. We all know that submissives and slaves have good days as well as bad ones. Being a slave, I understand this well. How then, do we keep ourselves in this mindset, on a day when tasks are not the easiest to follow and/or complete?
Starting out, it is not always easy for a human being to let go of ego enough to truly feel like property. Kneeling has always made me feel vulnerable and “inferior” enough to actually feel like my Master’s property. When even this does not work, I usually resort to asking for time in my cage. Something about having a lock on the door, and not having the key in my hand, makes me understand my position a little bit better. But for those that do not have this “luxury”, perhaps mentally reminding yourself of your position as property as often as possible, might help instill this in your soul.
These are, of course, suggestions of how to personally keep yourself in the mindset of property. When feeling as though you are “slipping” it is always wise to bring this to your Owner’s attention as quickly as possible, so that He or She may make the direction in way of handling it Themselves.
Written by Master William’s jaelina[W]
Inanimate object, or living being? Does being the property of a Master, Mistress or Dominant, have a connecting link to objectification? The answer to this question varies from relationship to relationship; as does any answer, to any question, but in the end, does objectification have anything to do with being property? Once we slaves and submissives understand that we are the property of our Owners’, and just what being property means, how do we keep ourselves in this mindset?
In my relationship with my Master, I am a living being, and am treated as such. This does not mean however, that my Owner treats me as any regular house wife, because that is far from the truth. But we both recognize that I am a living, breathing human being with feelings and opinions. It is how I express these things that matters the most.
It is true that I belong to my Master as completely as this computer belongs to my Master. The only difference being that this inanimate object cannot make the choice to ask for release, and receive it. An object being “something visible or tangible”, I am an object to my Master, in the sense, that I too can be seen as well as touched (when, of course, this is my Master’s will).
When the submissive or slave has come to an understanding of what it means to be property, he or she can then concentrate on keeping themselves in the mindset of being so. We all know that submissives and slaves have good days as well as bad ones. Being a slave, I understand this well. How then, do we keep ourselves in this mindset, on a day when tasks are not the easiest to follow and/or complete?
Starting out, it is not always easy for a human being to let go of ego enough to truly feel like property. Kneeling has always made me feel vulnerable and “inferior” enough to actually feel like my Master’s property. When even this does not work, I usually resort to asking for time in my cage. Something about having a lock on the door, and not having the key in my hand, makes me understand my position a little bit better. But for those that do not have this “luxury”, perhaps mentally reminding yourself of your position as property as often as possible, might help instill this in your soul.
These are, of course, suggestions of how to personally keep yourself in the mindset of property. When feeling as though you are “slipping” it is always wise to bring this to your Owner’s attention as quickly as possible, so that He or She may make the direction in way of handling it Themselves.
Accepting Master’s Forgiveness, June 1, 2009.
Written by Master William’s jaelina
This seems to be a common difficulty for slaves and submissives alike. In this lifestyle we find ourselves on our knees, begging for forgiveness, more than any vanilla relationship. But once we are lifted from our knees, our tears are kissed away, and Master says “you are My good girl”, do we really accept these words right away, as we should? The truth is, for many, no.
Even though we have been forgiven, we tend to still mull things over in our head. Asking ourselves why and often times, beating ourselves up. The problem with this is, our minds are not our own. We do not have the right to tear ourselves down for something that our Owners have already forgiveness for. It is not our choice as to when we are forgiven. When forgiveness is given, we must accept it. If we do not, we are not accepting our Masters’ word. Of course, we are human beings. These types of behavior are learned and it is very hard to just unlearn them. So what can we do, to learn to accept the forgiveness?
I began this process by telling myself exactly what I have stated in the previous paragraph. “My mind is not my own.” I gave my mind, body and soul to my Master the day that He claimed me as His. Therefore, all decisions but that one, were placed into my Owner’s hands. When I have done something to deserve correction, it is my place to take that correction and then beg for forgiveness. Once Master has granted me His forgiveness, it is my place to accept His decision, and move on.
My second step was to tell myself , “I cannot change the past“, but instead, I could improve any of my future actions. Dwelling on an action that has already been forgiven, is only taking time away from making my service even better for my Master, in the present and future. Wasting time on the past, and stressing on things that I do not have the power to change now, only creates a negative mind-set. And when I have negative thoughts, I can not concentrate as I should to make my service pleasing to my Master. I still have moments where accepting my Master’s forgiveness is difficult. And when these moments occur, I tell myself these two statements, to remind me of my place.
Accepting my Master’s pardon may not be the easiest at times, but like anything else I struggle with, in time, it is something that I will be able to look back at, and have a giggle. Knowing that after all the stress, I will have made it. And it will be just one more thing that I can check off of my mental “things to work on” list, pat myself on the back, and move on. There will be much more things that I will have, to keep myself busy. After all, I am, and always will be, my Master’s work-in-progress.
Written by Master William’s jaelina
This seems to be a common difficulty for slaves and submissives alike. In this lifestyle we find ourselves on our knees, begging for forgiveness, more than any vanilla relationship. But once we are lifted from our knees, our tears are kissed away, and Master says “you are My good girl”, do we really accept these words right away, as we should? The truth is, for many, no.
Even though we have been forgiven, we tend to still mull things over in our head. Asking ourselves why and often times, beating ourselves up. The problem with this is, our minds are not our own. We do not have the right to tear ourselves down for something that our Owners have already forgiveness for. It is not our choice as to when we are forgiven. When forgiveness is given, we must accept it. If we do not, we are not accepting our Masters’ word. Of course, we are human beings. These types of behavior are learned and it is very hard to just unlearn them. So what can we do, to learn to accept the forgiveness?
I began this process by telling myself exactly what I have stated in the previous paragraph. “My mind is not my own.” I gave my mind, body and soul to my Master the day that He claimed me as His. Therefore, all decisions but that one, were placed into my Owner’s hands. When I have done something to deserve correction, it is my place to take that correction and then beg for forgiveness. Once Master has granted me His forgiveness, it is my place to accept His decision, and move on.
My second step was to tell myself , “I cannot change the past“, but instead, I could improve any of my future actions. Dwelling on an action that has already been forgiven, is only taking time away from making my service even better for my Master, in the present and future. Wasting time on the past, and stressing on things that I do not have the power to change now, only creates a negative mind-set. And when I have negative thoughts, I can not concentrate as I should to make my service pleasing to my Master. I still have moments where accepting my Master’s forgiveness is difficult. And when these moments occur, I tell myself these two statements, to remind me of my place.
Accepting my Master’s pardon may not be the easiest at times, but like anything else I struggle with, in time, it is something that I will be able to look back at, and have a giggle. Knowing that after all the stress, I will have made it. And it will be just one more thing that I can check off of my mental “things to work on” list, pat myself on the back, and move on. There will be much more things that I will have, to keep myself busy. After all, I am, and always will be, my Master’s work-in-progress.
Pet Play, May 23, 2009.
Written by jaelina[W]
I would first like to start out by saying that this is not a part of the lifestyle that Master and I participate in. Therefor, this article will not be written from experience but from a slave`s research and observations. Though this is not something that we are interested in, we know that our members and visitors might find the article useful, and we do not wish to exclude information that we feel we could use to help educate others about our lifestyle.
Pet play, pet training, or animal training is a branch of the BDSM lifestyle where a person, usually a slave, is trained to dress, act, and/or think as a certain animal. Pet play gives the slave no control and the freedom to simply obey and follow commands. The slave finds her obedience prideful and can give her a sense of acomplishment, while the Master appriciates the obedience that she so willingly puts forth.
Pony play, one of the common forms of play in pet play, is where the slave is trained to act as a pony. he or she dresses as a pony, including bit/gag, special gloves and/or shoes meant to look like hoofs, reins or lead ropes, a tail and more. In pony training, the slave can be directionally trained, can be taught to slow down, trot, run, "walk" (meaning to move forward), move backwards, and stop. Other commands can be taught at the Owner`s desire. Since the pony has a bit or gag in her mouth, she is unable to speak, there for a "tap out" is used much like a safeword. Usually for a tap out, the pony taps her hoof a set amount of times and this stops the "play". The pony can also be taught to use thier hoofs to say "yes" and "no". One tap for "yes" and two for "no".
The pony can also be trained in tricks such as, "show" which is when the pony kneels with grace, one leg extended forward. "Bow" is another trick, where the pony does something similar to a deep curtsy onto one knee, and then back up. Taps of the shoulder are used to signal going down upon the knee, and then to stand back up. Many discriptions of other tricks can be found on websites around the web containing information about pony play.
Kitten Play is another form of pet play and as I have read, it seems to be growing more and more popular. The slave, like pony play, dresses, acts, and/or thinks as a kitten. Kitten play allows the slave the comfort of attention. As with a real kitten and owner, the Master and slave have the chance to be closely attatched. The kitten can be taught certain tricks while still having that little bit of self dependant tendency. The kitten may be timid or frisky, and the mood or attitude may change from day to day. This play allows the slave a bit more than other forms of pet play.
Puppy Play, the third common branch of pet play, allows the slave to again, submit freely, not holding any power. The puppy can be taught to perform, like most if not all other pet training, tricks and commands such as sit, fetch, roll over, etc. In both kitten and puppy play, the pet may be placed to a "pet bed" away from the Owner to sleep. she may also eat from a "pet bowl" at her Master`s feet. As with most pet play, puppy play usually involves dressing up as a puppy, acting and behaving as a puppy, and thinking as a puppy would.
Pet play can create a bond between the pet and her Owner that I have heard can be very strong. Loyalty and appreciation from the pet of her Owner is almost always achieved. Pet play is satisfying for both the pet and her Owner.
Those that do not participate in this part of the lifestyle often look upon this play as degrading and abusive. However, if we look at the basics of slave training, and compare them to pet training, we find many similarities. In pet play, the pet in training is taught commands that they must follow. These commands are often short and most times one word. For example; "sit!" Now if we look at slave training, we, as slaves, are trained to follow our Master`s orders. The only difference between the command of "sit" and a command to a slave such as "sit down" is a word. The commands achieve the same result. The slave, or pet, sits (as long as she is an obedient one). Also, in pet play, the pet finds comfort in attention, petting, playing, cuddling and so on and so forth. In a slave`s training, does she not find comfort in those very same things? We may not term them as "petting" or "playing", but don`t we enjoy our Master stroking our hair, or kissing our nose? Affection is something that any slave or human being longs for. Rather all the time, or just every now and then.
The truth is, there is more similarities than most like to admit to, between slave training and pet training. Does this mean that we are animals? Should be treated poorly or as someone of no worth or value? No, of course not. I certainly am no dog. However, I am an obedient, cuddly, loving and well groomed companion to my Master.
Written by jaelina[W]
I would first like to start out by saying that this is not a part of the lifestyle that Master and I participate in. Therefor, this article will not be written from experience but from a slave`s research and observations. Though this is not something that we are interested in, we know that our members and visitors might find the article useful, and we do not wish to exclude information that we feel we could use to help educate others about our lifestyle.
Pet play, pet training, or animal training is a branch of the BDSM lifestyle where a person, usually a slave, is trained to dress, act, and/or think as a certain animal. Pet play gives the slave no control and the freedom to simply obey and follow commands. The slave finds her obedience prideful and can give her a sense of acomplishment, while the Master appriciates the obedience that she so willingly puts forth.
Pony play, one of the common forms of play in pet play, is where the slave is trained to act as a pony. he or she dresses as a pony, including bit/gag, special gloves and/or shoes meant to look like hoofs, reins or lead ropes, a tail and more. In pony training, the slave can be directionally trained, can be taught to slow down, trot, run, "walk" (meaning to move forward), move backwards, and stop. Other commands can be taught at the Owner`s desire. Since the pony has a bit or gag in her mouth, she is unable to speak, there for a "tap out" is used much like a safeword. Usually for a tap out, the pony taps her hoof a set amount of times and this stops the "play". The pony can also be taught to use thier hoofs to say "yes" and "no". One tap for "yes" and two for "no".
The pony can also be trained in tricks such as, "show" which is when the pony kneels with grace, one leg extended forward. "Bow" is another trick, where the pony does something similar to a deep curtsy onto one knee, and then back up. Taps of the shoulder are used to signal going down upon the knee, and then to stand back up. Many discriptions of other tricks can be found on websites around the web containing information about pony play.
Kitten Play is another form of pet play and as I have read, it seems to be growing more and more popular. The slave, like pony play, dresses, acts, and/or thinks as a kitten. Kitten play allows the slave the comfort of attention. As with a real kitten and owner, the Master and slave have the chance to be closely attatched. The kitten can be taught certain tricks while still having that little bit of self dependant tendency. The kitten may be timid or frisky, and the mood or attitude may change from day to day. This play allows the slave a bit more than other forms of pet play.
Puppy Play, the third common branch of pet play, allows the slave to again, submit freely, not holding any power. The puppy can be taught to perform, like most if not all other pet training, tricks and commands such as sit, fetch, roll over, etc. In both kitten and puppy play, the pet may be placed to a "pet bed" away from the Owner to sleep. she may also eat from a "pet bowl" at her Master`s feet. As with most pet play, puppy play usually involves dressing up as a puppy, acting and behaving as a puppy, and thinking as a puppy would.
Pet play can create a bond between the pet and her Owner that I have heard can be very strong. Loyalty and appreciation from the pet of her Owner is almost always achieved. Pet play is satisfying for both the pet and her Owner.
Those that do not participate in this part of the lifestyle often look upon this play as degrading and abusive. However, if we look at the basics of slave training, and compare them to pet training, we find many similarities. In pet play, the pet in training is taught commands that they must follow. These commands are often short and most times one word. For example; "sit!" Now if we look at slave training, we, as slaves, are trained to follow our Master`s orders. The only difference between the command of "sit" and a command to a slave such as "sit down" is a word. The commands achieve the same result. The slave, or pet, sits (as long as she is an obedient one). Also, in pet play, the pet finds comfort in attention, petting, playing, cuddling and so on and so forth. In a slave`s training, does she not find comfort in those very same things? We may not term them as "petting" or "playing", but don`t we enjoy our Master stroking our hair, or kissing our nose? Affection is something that any slave or human being longs for. Rather all the time, or just every now and then.
The truth is, there is more similarities than most like to admit to, between slave training and pet training. Does this mean that we are animals? Should be treated poorly or as someone of no worth or value? No, of course not. I certainly am no dog. However, I am an obedient, cuddly, loving and well groomed companion to my Master.
Submission Training, April 20, 2009.
Written by: jaelina[W]
Training begins with acceptance. Acceptance of the fact that you, as a slave, need to give up a certain level or degree of your personal control, and hand it to another. Rather you want some control, or to give up all control (ie: total power exchange), you first have to accept that, and understand your needs and limits.
Training, in my best definition, is the growth and education of submission. Training is a step in a relationship between a Master and slave that like most, requires trust, knowledge, and understanding in and of the people involved. slave jane could not walk up to Master John Doe and be able to enter into an emmediate training. While yes, the Master could set a group of rules and expectations down, the slave may or may not comply. Two strangers could not trust one another, know one another, and understand one another enough to be committed to making this training work.
Master John could give slave jane a set of rules and/or chores and expect them to be followed. However, is this a training of a slave, or controlling a slave? Now, on the flip side. Say that Master John and slave jane had come to know one another more and have come to understand eachother`s needs, desires, and limitations. The same rules and chores are given. Here begins training. Why? Because the slave can now understand why the Master expects these things to be done. Instead of controlling demands, they become orders that the slave can reasonably understand now that she knows of His desires and needs.
In the beginning, before the slave has come to understand that she wants or needs to be trained, she must first understand herself. Every slave, though the topic is a debatable one, has limits, wants and needs. Before she can even consider entering into a relationship with a Master, she must accept those wants, needs and limitations. Once this step is taken, it makes setting the basics of training considerably easy. Training involves both the Master and slave. Both parties` needs, wants, and limits make the training of the slave unique from any another. It is true that not every want will be met, but to make the action of training safe, needs and limits must be met in order to train the slave in a healthy way.
Written by: jaelina[W]
Training begins with acceptance. Acceptance of the fact that you, as a slave, need to give up a certain level or degree of your personal control, and hand it to another. Rather you want some control, or to give up all control (ie: total power exchange), you first have to accept that, and understand your needs and limits.
Training, in my best definition, is the growth and education of submission. Training is a step in a relationship between a Master and slave that like most, requires trust, knowledge, and understanding in and of the people involved. slave jane could not walk up to Master John Doe and be able to enter into an emmediate training. While yes, the Master could set a group of rules and expectations down, the slave may or may not comply. Two strangers could not trust one another, know one another, and understand one another enough to be committed to making this training work.
Master John could give slave jane a set of rules and/or chores and expect them to be followed. However, is this a training of a slave, or controlling a slave? Now, on the flip side. Say that Master John and slave jane had come to know one another more and have come to understand eachother`s needs, desires, and limitations. The same rules and chores are given. Here begins training. Why? Because the slave can now understand why the Master expects these things to be done. Instead of controlling demands, they become orders that the slave can reasonably understand now that she knows of His desires and needs.
In the beginning, before the slave has come to understand that she wants or needs to be trained, she must first understand herself. Every slave, though the topic is a debatable one, has limits, wants and needs. Before she can even consider entering into a relationship with a Master, she must accept those wants, needs and limitations. Once this step is taken, it makes setting the basics of training considerably easy. Training involves both the Master and slave. Both parties` needs, wants, and limits make the training of the slave unique from any another. It is true that not every want will be met, but to make the action of training safe, needs and limits must be met in order to train the slave in a healthy way.